Side-by-Side Settle
Confidence • Regulation • Calmness • Independence
Description
A gentle settling activity that helps dogs feel comfortable resting near you without relying on touch or constant engagement. Ideal for velcro dogs, this game nurtures calm companionship and the confidence to relax independently.
How to Play
Create a cosy settling spot a short distance from you, like a bed, mat, or their sanctuary space.
Sit down with a quiet activity, keeping your body language neutral and your movements soft.
Invite your dog to the mat once, then let them choose how to settle without additional cues or engagement.
Stay calm and predictable while your dog rests — no chatting, stroking, or eye contact; simply share the space quietly.
Finish while your dog is still relaxed, standing up gently and moving on without fuss or excitement.
Why it Matters
Side-by-Side Settle helps dogs learn that being near you doesn’t always mean interaction, touch, or excitement.
By practising calm companionship, your dog begins to feel safe resting independently, without relying on you to regulate every moment. This reduces velcro behaviour, softens movement reactivity, and builds the emotional confidence needed for gentle alone-time later on.
Tips for Success
Keep your body language soft and neutral so your dog doesn’t feel invited to engage.
Choose a naturally quiet time of day, when your dog is more likely to settle.
If your dog finds it hard to switch off, offer a gentle chew or lick mat to help them unwind.
Keep sessions short and achievable — a minute or two is enough at first.
If your dog gets up or checks in, go quietly neutral rather than re-engaging.